RESILIENCE

BY MICHELLE HOPE

Life can certainly challenge us, especially when we least expect it. We will all face some type of trauma or stressful event during our lives. How do we deal with it? What gets us through these difficult times? The start of 2020 has tested many people in varying degrees, from everyday challenges to traumatic events with more lasting impact, like the death of a loved one or a life changing incident.

What is resilience?

Psychologists define resilience as the process of adapting well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats or significant sources of stress — such as family and relationship problems, serious health problems, or workplace and financial stressors. 

Adapting

The road to resilience is likely to involve considerable emotional distress. People generally adapt well over time to life-changing situations and stressful events — in part thanks to resilience. As much as resilience involves "bouncing back" from these difficult experiences, it can also involve profound personal growth.

What does that mean for us during 2020?

Becoming more resilient not only helps you get through difficult circumstances; it also empowers you to grow and even improve your life along the way. Increasing your resilience takes time and intentionality. Focusing on four core components — connection, wellness, healthy thinking and meaning — can empower you to withstand and learn from difficult and traumatic experiences. During the down time in 2020, we have had time for reflection and revision of our lives.

How do we build resilience?

Resilience involves behaviours, thoughts and actions that anyone can learn and develop.

Prioritize relationships

Connecting with empathetic and understanding people can remind you that you are not alone amid difficulties. Focus on finding trustworthy and compassionate individuals who validate your feelings, which will support the skill of resilience.

Take care of your body

Self-care is a legitimate practice for mental health and building resilience. That is because stress is just as much physical as it is emotional. Promoting positive lifestyle factors like proper nutrition, ample sleep, hydration and regular exercise can strengthen your body to adapt to stress and reduce the toll of emotions like anxiety or depression.

Practice mindfulness and gratitude

Mindful journaling, yoga, and other spiritual practices like prayer or meditation can help people build connections and restore hope, which can prime them to deal with situations that require resilience. Being aware of the things in life that matter most and that you can be grateful for is also important to focus on.

Avoid negative outlets

It may be tempting to mask your pain with alcohol, drugs or other substances, but that is like putting a bandage on a deep wound. Allow yourself to feel your emotions and work through your pain.

Embrace healthy thoughts, keep things in perspective, accept change, maintain a hopeful outlook, and learn from your past. Find purpose, help others, be proactive, move toward your goals, look for opportunities for self-discovery.

RESOURCE FROM APA